Why good posture is sexy and why you should try it!

I’ve been traveling a lot recently, squeezed into small seats on airplanes, not moving around the cabin nearly as much as I’d like. And, if you know me, I bet you understand how difficult this has been!

Slumped in an uncomfortable seat on a recent flight back to San Francisco, I began thinking about posture and how sexy it is when I see someone walking or sitting tall, chest out, and shoulders back. It’s like the person exudes confidence which is not only anatomically correct but also incredibly hot.

I became obsessed with this question: how does posture affect not only our structural alignment but what does it say about the way we feel about ourselves and how others perceive us?

Let’s start with a quick assessment… how are you sitting as you’re reading this right now? If you’re anything like most people, you’re probably slouched at a desk or better yet, on a couch not really paying much attention to your posture and healthy spinal alignment. Maybe you’re even hunched over, feet on your chair, taking up as little space as possible and contracting your body.

We’ll get into ways to promote healthy posture and how it affects everything from the way we walk and exercise in another post. For now, I want to explore why good posture helps us actually feel confident and present as sexy and capable beings… which we all are!

Check out this TED Talk I discovered on something called “power poses”, the idea that standing in a poised and confident posture, even when we may not feel this way, actually affects the cortisol and testosterone levels in our brains, which impacts our behavior and ultimate life outcomes!

It’s a concept that’s best summed up as the body has the potential to change our mindsets, which lead to behavioral changes, which ultimately impacts outcomes and success.

I’m curious. How do you feel about good posture? Have you ever “faked it until you made it” using a confident power pose to help you mask potential insecurity or feelings of inadequacy? How did this impact your outcomes?

I challenge you to strike a power pose. Make posture something you are obsessed with on a daily basis.

Hold yourself high!


Lean In and Breathe

Many of you have had some type of  bodywork performed by one of our incredible practitioners at Ascend– if not, I highly recommend we chat! Seriously, everyone is so passionate and here to make you feel like the best version of yourself; we want to see you breathing, sweating, and smiling each day.

I recently had a bodywork session with a client that was truly special. She asked, “why do we contract and stop breathing when we feel pain or fear?” I was blown away by her question. It’s such a simple yet profound observation of our relationship to ourselves and our broader lives. After some thought I responded, “it’s a shared aspect of human experience, especially when our safety is presumed to be at risk.”

In the massage room, I work in harmony with the person’s breath; I believe it’s integral to the session. Bodywork, as opposed to massage, is an expansive practice encompassing different aspects of healing by integrating physical, emotional, and spiritual components of well-being. It’s designed to promote healing and awareness. When I breathe with a client, we bring life into an experience. We embrace the discomfort and discover vastness and expansion together. We identify restrictions and move with intention to release trapped energy and potential. In doing so, we cultivate a stronger mind-body relationship and a deeper awareness of the power of breath itself.

Practicing working with our breath gives us awareness and releases us from fear and its restrictive, isolating grip on our lives. That’s why it’s essential to lean in, breathe, and push up against the confines of our fear and physical, emotional, or spiritual pain. We must practice breathwork mindfully and resist the temptation to run and constrict, to hide in the egoic fear of our perceived pain.

When we feel pain, our automatic response is to run or recoil from the undesired stimulus. We shrink from provocation to protect ourselves and adopt a flight or fight physiological response. Unfortunately, consistent reliance on this mechanism is consistently restrictive, especially when we’re not actually in immediate danger. Our adrenaline and cortisol levels rise and we constrict our breathing. This is all evolutionarily great if we need to run from a threatening animal but provided the comforts of modern-day society, I highly doubt this is a real scenario for most of us!

What is real is the trapped fear and pain that dwell within each of us– residual reminders of difficult situations in life. As humans, we have a tendency to drag the past with us and the mind is quick to protect us. So much so that we begin to barricade ourselves into lives that resemble concrete walls– no fun and lacking both passion and intimacy.

So, why do we constrict and hide?

Generally, we fear situations that are out of our control– we fear not getting what we want or think we deserve and we fear losing. By contracting, we create the illusion of safety and security.

As we continually constrict our breathing, we begin to create trigger points in the musculoskeletal system which become holding patterns of unexamined pain. We often don’t even realize pain exists in a particular area of the body until someone applies pressure to it. Notice I use the word pressure here and not pain. While the automatic response is to hold our breath, pull away, and hide, true healing occurs when we breathe into the discomfort. When we draw our attention to rather than from it, we give it breath, life, freedom and we transform.

Using breath allows us to arrive to a still point of no time, no space, and no-thing–that is when change occurs. We can do this through bodywork and breath is our catalyst.

This is why it’s powerful when a palpable connection exists between bodyworker and client. We’re able to explore where pain resides not only physically, but also spiritually and emotionally. As the client resists the temptation to withdraw by gently leaning into discomfort through breath, she begins to internalize the importance of expansive breathing.

Pain or discomfort becomes our entry point into a deeper and more meditative exploration of self.

#PushPause – What Makes Me Feel Alive

I recently returned from a five-day fitness conference in San Diego and want to share how much I absolutely love and appreciate each and every one of you. Thank you for reading our blog, for prioritizing health and wellness, and for being such an integral part of our growing community at Ascend Body. I am so grateful to work and train among people who create a sense of fulfillment and bring meaning to my life each day. Thank you, truly.

We all experience times in our lives where our jobs seem unremittingly stressful, our kids (or furry friends!) get sick, or the car breaks down and we lose sight of what really matters in our lives– the people, activities, and ideas we hold close and true. We become so consumed and preoccupied by never ending to-do lists and deadlines that it becomes nearly impossible to appreciate “the now”.

Although it can be hard to admit, this happens to us all; it’s a natural part of being human and leading productive, coexistent lives. What’s important is how we respond to added stressors, unanticipated events, and those times where everything feels completely beyond our control. When it does, I find it helpful to pause and to either think or write about what drives me and create the time to actually do what makes me smile.

While I was away, I realized that having alone time in a hotel always affords me uninterrupted time to reflect and think about what’s important in my life– the reasons why I wake up each morning and aspire to do what I do with passion and grace.

I thrive in a community filled with love and positivity and want to share 5 aspects of my life that make me feel truly and uncompromisingly alive.

  1. Growth. Growth is one of my core values. I love to learn, challenge myself, and expand my worldview through listening and studying. Anything that has to do with the inner workings of mind, body, and spirit and their interconnected nature motivates me to adapt and grow. I am inspired by our infinite capacity as humans to transform through spiritual practice, reading, and quiet observation.
  2. Exploring my purpose. I love helping people thrive. When I see a client change, progress, or overcome I feel more connected to my purpose than ever. When someone experiences an “aha! moment” I can actually see and feel the light turn on between what’s happening in the brain and the body’s physical response; the shift is indescribable and truly magical.
  3. Exercising in Nature. Running, hiking, biking, climbing, and playing outside make me feel alive. When I “turn off” my brain, push through the fear of not having enough time, and I stop worrying about my to-do list, everything suddenly changes. Life seems simpler, more fun, and fuller. I just have to trust, let go, and get outside.
  4. Love. Feeling love for other human beings inspires me to live the best and truest version of myself possible. Shared vulnerability is beautiful and when I feel a connection, I feel whole.
  5. Playing with my puppies. Their sweet unconditional love reminds me not to take life too seriously and to never stop playing.

Reduce back pain, Increase Blood Flow, and Relieve Neck & Shoulder Tension

Introducing Ascend Body’s most dynamic class: The ELDOA Method, taught by CHECK Level 2 Coach – IAN RYAN. The only class of its kind in the country, this 1-hour long group fitness class begins with an intention (i.e. an area of the body to focus on), will follow with a warm up (awareness drills), and will finish strong with a series of mysofascial stretches and ELDOA’s around the intention.

Wednesday’s at 6pm

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In short, ELDOA (Étirements Longitudinaux avec Decoaptation OsteoArticulaire), or more easily translated to Longitudinal Osteo-Articular Decoaptation of the Spine is a revolutionary stretching and strengthening technique for the spine and joints throughout the body. ELDOA postures are very specific compared to other techniques. If a client experiences pain because of compression between the 5th lumbar and 1st sacral, the de-coaptation position should target this exact level and not the one above or below.

Myofascial Stretching is the safest and most effective way to create space and balance in the body. This technique of stretching is extremely advanced because of its specificity to correct the body’s tensegrity through the fascial chains and it’s solicitation of the nervous system.

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  • Reduces Joint Inflammation and Arthrosis
  • Delays Disc Degeneration
  • Increases Disc Hydration
  • Increases Blood Flow
  • Improves Posture
  • Relieves of Chronic and Acute Back Pain
  • Relieves of Neck and Shoulder Tension
  • Improves Awareness and Overall Wellbeing
  • Improves Recovery Time for Sports and Training
  • Reduces Forward Head Posture
  • Normalizes Disc Bulges
  • Reduces Degrees of Scoliosis
  • Increases Flexibility



One of the most common postural problems is the forward head posture. Since we live in a forward facing world, the repetitive use of computers, TV, video games, trauma and even backpacks have forced the body to adapt to a forward head posture. Repetitive movements in a certain direction will strengthen nerve and muscle pathways to move that way more readily. The ELDOA Method classes help to reverse these pathways by re-establishing your gravity line, strengthening the muscles of your back and spine, and correcting tensions of the restricted, overused muscles in your body.


“I wish that I knew what I know now, when I was younger!” FIghting gravity and the effects of inactivity is a lifelong endeavor! What are you doing to keep your spine strong, mobile, and healthy? Chronological aging may be inevitable but just as psychological health can be maintained with mental exercises, your biological health can be maintained and improved with the proper physical exercises. And It is never too late to start!

In the ELDOA Method classes, all of the positions can be modified to your specific needs or restrictions. The ELDOAs and Myofascial Stretches are incredible tools to help combat the detrimental effects that aging can have on your body.  You will feel younger, taller, and more energetic when you make ELDOA METHOD classes part of your lifestyle.


If we were to gather a group of middle age folks (45 average age) who have NEVER had back pain before and shoot MRIs on them all, here’s what we would find:

  • 38% would have disc bulges,
  • 37% disc protrusions (aka: contained herniations),
  • 11% disc extrusions (aka: non-contained herniations)
  • 4% nerve route compression by the disc herniation.

Some statistics of Low Back Pain and how it could be related to degenerative disc disease and herniated discs:

  • Most common complaint among adults
  • Lifetime prevalence in working population up to 80%
  • 60% experience functional limitation or disability
  • Second most common reason for work disability
  • Despite advances in imaging and surgical techniques Low Back Pan prevalence and its cost are relatively unchanged
  • 90% people age >50 have degenerative disc disease

If you are suffering from or have recurring bouts of back pain caused by spinal injuries, the ELDOA METHOD is what you need! These postures will alleviate your symptoms by addressing the cause at the source of the problem. Attending the ELDOA METHOD Classes will decompress your spine and reinforce ideal posture so you can help reestablish a healthy spine!


Guy VOYER DO developed an ELDOA exercise for every articulation in the spine starting at the base of the skull and ending with the sacro-illiac joint. Disc compression existing at any level of the spine can be addressed through a specific ELDOA exercise. ELDOAs are not limited to just the spine. There are ELDOA postures for all joints of the sacrum and pelvis as well as the shoulders and skull.

ELDOAs are postural self-normalizing techniques designed for widening the space within a chosen articulation. This is accomplished by creating fascial tension to fix the vertebra below and contraction in extreme range to normalize the vertabra above the targeted disc. For example, it is possible in one minute a day to relieve disc compression between T6-T7 or even more specifically at the base of the long arm of the left sacroiliac joint. It is possible to create more room in a particular articulation with an exact position adapted to each person.

ELDOA postures are very specific compared to other techniques. If a client experiences pain because of compression between the 5th lumbar and 1st sacral, the de-coaptation position should target this exact level and not the one above or below.

Myofascial Stretching is the safest and most effective way to create space and balance in the body. This technique of stretching is extremely advanced because of its specificity to correct the body’s tensegrity through the fascial chains and it’s solicitation of the nervous system.

All muscles are wrapped in an aponeurotic sleeve and connected with each other through numerous fasciae. Everyone knows about muscle stretching; however, it is difficult to stretch a muscle if it is wrapped in a leathery sleeve which does not give. It is better to consider each muscle as links in chains extending throughout the length of the entire body. The goal of every Myofascial stretch is to put into tension the fascia that encases the muscles in order to normalize the length and function of the fascial chains. When you do Myofascial stretches, you correct structural imbalances and release tension across the joints which reduces inflammation and pain.

The flexibility gains from Myofascial stretches will improve your mobility, and overall health. As you become more flexible, you’ll find that you have better posture, greater range of motion, that you are able to perform tasks with greater ease, and you’ll suffer fewer injuries.

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MARK HAVILAND: Anatomy of Emotion Workshop

Mark Anthony Haviland C.M.T., founder and owner of Beyond Bodywork will be leading this multi-dimensional workshop with lecture and a collaborative hands on study of the Chinese Five Element System (which bridges the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual bodies), Meridians and the potent acupressure points in the body. Included in this 6 hour condensed course there will be self care techniques using QiGong, stretching and self massage. All material covered will have a focus on how and where emotions are held in the body, with specific techniques of how to move blockages in the body with awareness and heartfelt touch. This is designed for anyone, however highly beneficial for personal trainers, massage therapists, yoga teachers, psychotherapists and anyone in the health and wellness fields. Again, this workshop is designed and presented for anyone to participate, sink in deeper to a more full sense of wellness and be empowered.

“All emotions are stored in the body. When left unattended these past experiences can cause blockages and dis-ease. Marks works with every client to process, decompartmentalize, and weave together that which is held in the soul, psyche, and body.” – Beyond Body Work

Admission: $75

Can Your Thoughts Prevent Healing?

It takes much more than movement to truly reach our potential as a human being – that’s been my coaching experience over the last 15 years.  This may seem obvious, but it also takes more than nutrition, hydration, sleep, and functional breathing to reach our potential.

I believe that for each of us to reach our dreams, it takes a willingness to look within and find the roots of why we are the way we are physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.  What are the conscious/unconscious boxes we keep ourselves in?

What does this mean for me?  In this moment it means that your physical body is simply a biofeedback mechanism for your more subtle energy systems – specifically our consciousness, which through our organs, glands, and musculoskeletal system gain expression.

It means that your physical body can guide you into your sub-conscious by paying close attention to what your body is sharing.  I would also invite you to consider that even “random” injuries hold purpose and expression from our consciousness.

What we perceive is what we believe, and what we believe is what we perceive.  Your perceptions of yourself and others literally create the movie you watch each and every moment.

If your current movie is seen through the eyes of the past, can you actually ever be present?

If you are unaware that you are responsible for your movie is it possible to change the film reel?

If what I am sharing is even half true, is it possible to cultivate healthy change without addressing your thought patterns?

I’ve had many clients come to me with issues related to posture, many of whom present with an upper cross syndrome (forward head, rounded shoulders, kyphotic thoracic spine).  What does this posture really say about their state of mind and how they see the outside and experience the inside world?

In my experience, using only five of the six foundational principals – Nutrition, Movement, Hydration, Sleep, Breathing – will not change this person’s posture long term.  If he perceives the outside/inside world as overwhelming, feels as if he has no personal power to take a stand, is afraid to share his heart openly, or is in a relationship in which he’s continually choosing to be abused physically, emotionally, and mentally, I would be highly surprised to see postural changes that hold unless these roots are addressed.

To see the future all you need to do is look to the past. Until these roots are addressed we will each continue to create the same “movie” over and over – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

The above is only my experience – it is only what I have perceived which has become what I believe, could this be true for you too?